That March day back in 1965 witnessed the opening act of their unlikely romance.
And this tale may be more fiery than fairy – just the honest way I like ‘em.
Their paths first crossed at The Toledo State Psychiatric Hospital….
Yeah, a bit unconventional for the beginning of a love story.
The dainty strawberry blonde nursing student whirled the head of the shiny-shoed orderly.
(or the other way around depending who you ask).
Neither suspecting the straightforward introduction of “Hi, I’m Mr. Czarnecki,” would find Bob and Carol sharing a name (and a life) two years later.
They married April 15th, 1967….
Over 50 years ago, if you’re counting.
18,250 (plus) days of life…together.
And if you ask them the secret to a lasting marriage, They’ll shoot off some ornery response about avoiding prison time, then promptly change the subject.
But 50 years and four kids is really no joke.
And there’s a million colorful stories to recount about Bob and Carol…
The ways they loved.
The ways they battled.
The joy in all they got right,
and the grace in all that went left.
50 years of recommitting to their word daily…sometimes hourly.
And it wasn’t always pretty, and certainly wasn’t perfect…
But it was together – and that says something.
And if you really want to know their secret-
How they pressed on when pandemonium ensued (and it did)…
They will straight face tell you “because I said I would.”
Yeah, it’s that simple… and stupid tough.
And it’s become a scarcity.
This word-keeping notion.
I’ve noticed that we all have a lot to say/type/text and tweet these days…
Gobs of promises and proclamations for the world’s stage.
Funny though how surprise abounds when someone actually does what they say they will do.
It’s become… unconventional.
Especially when keeping our word requires a dip into discomfort or inconvenience. (Ask Jesus) (Read More…)
And this girl may have perfected the craft of bowing out gracefully when the pressure is on. (ahem)
But just maybe this girl has tired of people pleasing and superficial promises that feel good in the moment but fail to persevere when the squeeze of promise keeping ensues.
Can we just say what we mean, and mean what we say – then keep our word?
Even when we have little understanding of where our word keeping may require us to go…
And even when those around us fracture our hearts with throw away promises (cause they will)
Can we be resolute in our word keeping both big and small?
Because our words should carry both intention and completion.
And we can make it our new mantra…”I will do _______because I said I would.”
Cause maybe this mantra may begin to rightly change the flippancy of our culture
(and you…and me) for the better.
Word keeping builds character within us, trust between us, and love around us.
And Jesus knew…
As He lived out the most epic love story for folks that were sometimes completely inept at their word-keeping…
He kept His word anyway – because HE said He would.
And I am learning that this word-keeping is grueling business,
but it’s the baseline of any life lived well.
And more than notion, it’s fundamental for the survival of any love story.
And therein lies the lesson, 50 years in the making…
WHEN YOU KEEP YOUR WORD, YOUR WORD WILL ALWAYS KEEP YOU.
Thanks Dad & Mom